Thursday, October 15, 2009
I Face The Day And Pray To God I Won't Make The Same Mistakes
**I took this pic of the beautiful bush in my backyard!
While my nostalgia for the warm University of Miami always seems to creep up past normal levels when I am puttering around the chilly Rutgers campus, one of my favorite experiences correlates with this 45 minute commute to campus... visiting one of my favorite, hidden grocery stores/cafes that caters to the vegan, and now, to the raw vegan. Namaste is its name and delicious, cruelty free, vegan cuisine is its game! If you live near Rutgers University, give it a google.
After posting my last blog post on CrazySexyLife.com, one of the members/my beautiful friends asked me to elaborate on HOW exactly I live in the moment. She so eloquently explained, as she often does, that she has come across many posts about living in the moment, but none have explained how we achieve this often sought after goal. Surprisingly, I use a lot of tools that I often use with my severe and persistent mentally ill clients like re-framing, re-directing, and reality testing:
RE-FRAME --changing a belief, assigning it new meaning, which can change our views of the world around us and our situations
Often, for me, this is changing a negative to a positive.
Example (using the pain flare I am experiencing at the moment): "This is it for me. I must be getting worse. If I feel like this now, what will I feel like in 6 months? I'll be in a wheelchair!!!"
Re-frame: "Every pain flare I have been in has not spiraled me into a wheelchair, and if it does, I will address it then, not now. There are always options."
RE-DIRECT --change focus
Example: "I'm in so much pain. I'm in so much pain. I'm in so much pain..."
Re-direct: "Oh, look! My dog wants me to throw his toy!" --at times, it is that simple. Hanging out with a friend or family member is also another great distraction. Basically, do something FUN.
REALITY TESTING --gauge the difference between your internal world and the external world
Example: "I'll never be able to graduate because of this illness, and I won't be able to have a job and give back to my community if this disables me."
REALITY TEST: "How likely is that to occur? Not that likely."
These are very simple tools, but for me, they bring my focus from the future back to the present moment. Make sense?